The People We Are Becoming

When parents say no, it is not necessarily that they are being mean but only precautious, and looking out for the best interest of their children.

When we are young, we think we know everything, and that it’s cool to do what everyone else is doing such as: going to parties, joining all the social media sites, and not having a bedtime or curfew. Our adolescent minds have not fully developed enough to understand the consequences that may be tied to these acts. This is where our parents come in. Many of them have been there and done that, and will do everything in their power to make sure their children are not the subjects to the negativity that may be lurking around the corner.  

This is not to say that certain experiences aren’t necessary in order to mature. They absolutely are, and your parents will allow you to experience them when the time is right.

Sometimes parents take on the role of saying: NO means NO, and it’s not up for discussion. Since, we as the child may not understand why, and our young minds cannot fully wrap around all of the outcomes involved, we decide “let’s do it anyway, no harm, no foul”.  When parents say NO, don’t take this as an invite for you to turn it into a yes behind their backs. Parents want to establish trust in their children, and if they find out that you’ve done something behind their back, they are less likely going to give you permission to do things in the future. Also, you can run the risk of harming yourself in the process when doing exactly what they told you not to do.

Instead, talk to your parents, ask them to explain why the answer is no. Only then will you understand why your parents may have certain apprehensions. Perhaps this will also give you an opportunity to explain how you will be responsible should they grant you this one opportunity to show them.